I've said this before, and I'll say it again
I am not a relationship genius
BUT I will always share things that I believe have meaning, or have worked/ are working in my current relationship to maybe help someone else who could be struggling.
First of all, to understand this post you'll need to know about this book
If you haven't read it, put it on your to-read list. It will change the way you look at the way you show your love to your significant other.
These are the five love languages
1- Physical Touch
2- Quality Time
3- Acts of Service
4- Receiving Gifts
5- Words of Affirmation
I highly recommend, if you don't read the book, at LEAST take this quiz to find out what you & your partners love languages are.
Why is it important?
Well, ever since we were young we were always told
"Treat others the way you want to be treated"
but I'm here to tell ya, in a relationship (at least some of them), that doesn't always work.
OF COURSE you want to respect each other, and care for each other but that's not what I'm talking about.
Everyone likes to be loved a different way.
I'm not going to go into detail about John & I's love languages, but I will tell you that I do things differently to show my love to him, than I would want him to do for me.
For instance
You know those couples that write those cute comments on each-others Facebook walls
Publicly comment on their Instagram pics
"Like" one of their selfies
Public displays of affection
Leave little love notes...etc
Well, most of the time, only one person in the relationship LIKES that kind of love language.
The other one appreciates it, but doesn't NEED to have it to feel loved.
A lot of people only need you to do something for them to be reminded of your love.
If your partner doesn't understand your love language, you may not feel loved the way you want to feel loved, or even worse, they might not feel loved by you.
Take the quiz and figure it out, just something that can help in a relationship.
Another thing that helps, if you want to go really deep and learn more, is this book.
I'm a firm believer that every person is completely different, and as you grow older you realize you have to learn to tolerate the people you really don't like, and you run into personalities that clash with your own. This book has helped me learn how to accept people the way they are, and not expect them to change. My parents gave me this book during high-school and of course I never read it, but as I got older I realized what they meant, so I read it and it helped a lot. I'd tell you what the personalities are, but they won't make ANY sense ha ha, so just read the book or take the quiz!
It will not only help you understand your significant other but you can understand roommates, your boss, your coworkers, your kids, your friends, your parents, even your grumpy neighbor or the lady that's always way too happy at the grocery store...etc
Let me know what ya find out and if it helps/helped you!
