Valentines Wish List

A lot of you have asked, so even though it doesn't go with this blog post

yes, I am doing well and the recovery has surprisingly been quite easy.

I have binge watched a lot of Netflix shows, but my favorite is still Parenthood.

I am more mobile now, I just have a hard time sitting for long periods of time.

Should be going back to work part time next week & everything is going good.

Thank you all for the messages, the flowers, those who brought us dinner, and all of your thoughts & prayers. They are greatly appreciated :) 

Now moving on! Valentines Day is this weekend and here are just a few things I'm wishing for.

Date Night ideas

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So last year at my bridal shower there was a Date Night jar & everyone would take a popsicle stick and write down an idea for a date night. John & I used it for the first time the other night because we were kinda sick of the same movie on the couch thing. We pulled the "make dessert" stick. 

We ended up making some no-bake cookies and they were delicious! It was fun, cheap & easy!

That same night, a friend on Facebook was asking for date night ideas so I thought i'd pull all the sticks out and make a blog post. So here I am, sharing the date night ideas that were shared with me.

Some of them are kind of....interesting?

I thought I loved you then

Yes, I know I'm supposed to be recovering. It's been a week and I should still be "resting" but I'm stubborn, and I'm inspired to blog. So i'll take a break from Netflix and blog about how I became Mrs. Kirk.

Each one of us know how we met the one we married.

We know how we felt, we remember our first date, our first kiss...and so on

We remember the hesitations, the "what ifs" and the butterflies with every text, or every call.

We, as women remember, but does he?

I'm a sappy hopeless romantic at heart, I love love stories, and I especially love ours.

I love the life that we live, the silly arguments we look back & laugh at, and having this amazing man by my side through everything. 

Last night we were laying in bed, lights on, face to face just talking, laughing, and enjoying each other. Somehow we got on the subject as to how we started dating.

I'm really emotional, like, a real cry baby. The story of "us" triggers tears every single time.

Happy tears. He was the best thing that's ever happened to me.

But, we talked about it. I asked him what he remembers about me, and it went clear back to high-school. When I was a sophomore and he was a senior, he said he remembered my hair-style, judging by the picture it was pretty unforgettable. I had a poof that was permanent by then, I mean the poof was "in" and some girls had it rattier & bigger than mine (hard to believe I know).

2014 recap

2014 was a year for the books to say the least!

I've summed it up in a few words, and also added some links to previous posts so if you're new to the blog check them out and catch up!

Grief: After my Grandma passed away I was living the many stages of grief. I was lost in all my emotion, I felt like I was in a daze almost every day, and if I wasn't bawling my eyes out curled up on the couch I was sitting in silence with puffy blood-shot eyes. After being miserable, I tried to celebrate her life, instead of mourn her death. I started a quilt in March because she used to love quilting and I was hoping it would make me feel closer to her, but unfortunately life happened and I never finished it. I still have my days, but i'm just happy she's no longer in pain & with her sweetheart again. I really could have not gone through this without my husband though, he was there to hold me when I couldn't hold myself together, and he knew what to say to me during it all. Her passing away was really the day that changed my life.

Christmas with the Kirks- Photo Overload

This Christmas was a great one!
We got to spend time with both of our families, we were only missing my other brother & his family but we got to see them at Thanksgiving so that was a win!

This year I took my niece to the County building so we could adopt a couple families to shop for, for Christmas. I can only hope that it is a start to a new tradition, we had a blast shopping for the kiddos. When we went to "adopt" our family we saw conference rooms just filled with bags and bags of toys, racks hanging with coats and boxes full of boots for families and kids from the Angel Tree. It was an amazing sight to see and I was so happy that our community had come together to help those who were in need. We picked out outfits for four kids, including a pair of shoes. My niece had a 1 year old boy and a 6 year old girl to shop for, I had a 7 year old boy and a 9 year old girl. We had no idea what they needed for toys so we just stuck to the clothing. It was so close to Christmas so the store was packed and we stood in the cashiers line for almost 15 minutes! It was insane! I really hope my niece took a lot from that experience, kind acts of service & giving is really what Christmas is about. I wish we would have taken pictures but we were on a time limit and even during the 15 minutes in line I didn't even think about it. Ooops...

Christmas Eve day was spent running errands with my Mom, and taking flowers to my Grandma's grave. It's been a year since she's passed and I still find myself wanting to give her a call, or go visit her at home. It's been a hard change for all of us, but I know she's spending Christmas with her sweetheart in heaven, and she's probably had a great year! We sure miss them both and we know they are always watching over us.

Halloween in November

I have never really liked Halloween, maybe as a kid, but I feel like every year I get older the more overrated that "holiday" gets.

Last Halloween I decided to grow up and no longer dress in slutty costumes, I mean I was engaged and I was going to be a step-mom,  I couldn't dress like that anymore.

Last year John & I dressed up as Thing #1 & Thing #2

This year on Halloween I was working, and we were one of the many companies handing out candy to the kids at a local community event, until about 6pm.

Nothing was really going on that night, John had worked a lot that week and we were in bed by 9:30pm. I remember going to bed that night thinking, should we go somewhere? Should we get up and get dressed up and do something? Then I fell asleep....

I grew up and was too old for slutty costumes but was I really too old for Halloween and dressing up?

I mean, we are newlyweds, we should be experiencing these holidays together right?

The next day I woke up and decided it's "Halloweekend" and we're going to get dressed up and do something. I text one of my friends, her and her husband didn't do anything the night before so they were down to get dressed up. I ran to the store and bought some cat ears for her, I had a backpack full of old costumes I threw one on with some leggings, and John was able to find a rockers wig...  we headed over to their house for some beer pong, and card games, we even headed out to the bar for an hour ha ha, we each won $10 for "best costume" aka...the only people who wore costumes.

It was a fun night and I'm glad we did it. 

I was a bar maid, kinda

My hubby was a rocker, my friend was a cat, and her husband was...well...her husband ;)

It was a fun night, maybe next year we won't procrastinate so bad and maybe we'll have a house party of our own..who really knows, but this year, Halloween was in November for these newlyweds.

Is it just me....or does my husband look like a white version of Lil Wayne?
Whew...either way, he is HOT!

Hope you all had a great Halloween!

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United in Orange

This weekend the husband & I went to Denver for the Broncos VS Cardinals game.

We drove in on Saturday and met up with some friends, that night we checked out a place called

DAVE & BUSTERS...it was a BLAST!

You guys I'm like a kid when it comes to arcades, there was 8 of us and me & this girl were like old ladies at a casino, seriously... we spent hours on those machines.... look at our face!! 

We had so much fun ha ha...

Whitney hit jackpot on one of the machines and scored over 400 tickets, and then we both kept hitting up the machines that gave us lots of tickets and ended up with over 8,000 tickets combined.

This girl is fun and we have some pretty good memories from this trip

HA HA

On Sunday it was GAME TIME.

We hit up Starbucks for the famous Pumpkin Spice Latte and headed to the stadium for the big party.

This was John's first time and this was my second...although the first time we didn't do any tailgating and we were in a suite for a work function, and I wasn't really into football at that time.

SO let's just say this was our first game together, and it was AWESOME.

We were sitting next to two Cardinal fans, they kept the competition friendly which I'm sure was hard when we were standing up screaming in their face and jumping at every touch-down.

haha ..it was fun.

Anyway, here are some pictures from the game!

These were added to my Snap-Chat story, I'm sure my followers hated me ha ha

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We took a picture for each touch-down, until my phone died :(

It was an awesome weekend, I loved spending time with all of our friends & celebrating John's FIRST game with a big win!

Final Score?

20-41....OUCH!

Cardinals Fans are going to need some Aloe vera for that burn!

Turns out that long drive home after the game was worth it.

Becoming Mrs. Kirk--our one month anniversary

One month ago I woke up super excited because it was the day I was going to marry Mr. Kirk.

I was going to say "I do"

I could finally call John my husband, and I was going to be his wife.

It was a stressful day and it went by WAY too fast, so how do I feel now?

Well, when I started this blog I knew I was going to keep it for awhile so I named it

Being Mrs Kirk

At the time I wasn't Mrs Kirk yet, and truth is...I'm still not Mrs. Kirk

I'm becoming Mrs. Kirk.

I've realized that just because you get married, doesn't mean you have each other forever.

You have to try, every. single. day. 

You have to give more than you take

You have to love more than you hate

You have to be each-others number one fan and his biggest supporter

You have to give each other space

It's not that we do some things right and some things wrong, but it's that we do a lot of things right, and there's a lot of things we could do better. We are human, we make mistakes, and I've always been told that marriage is made up of two very good forgivers because it's made up of two very flawed people, and that's a fact jack.

When you sit down to blog you have to remember that everything you say is being viewed by many different people, your opinions can hurt people, and there's always the risk of being too public with your life. I'm not hear to air our dirty laundry, I'm here to be real, I'm writing this post for myself, others going through the same situation, and my husband. 

To my husband, THANK YOU.

Thank you for sticking through everything with me

Thank you for never forgetting to give me a kiss goodbye in the morning

Thank you for helping me look for our dog when he ran away last week

Thank you for being a shoulder to cry on

Thank you for trying to understand why I'm upset

Thank you for loving me when I'm not love-able

Thank you for my finding my hand under the covers in the middle of the night and holding it

Thank you for helping out around the house and taking the weight off my shoulders

Thank you for making me laugh so hard my stomach hurts

but most of all, thank you for holding my hand through this journey of becoming husband & wife

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In a marriage, it's important to set goals 

Like I said above, I want to be better wife, and these 4 things are just a start;

1.  Appreciate my Husband- Of course I appreciate him, but does he know it? For example; he takes the trash out every Wed night, do I expect it, or do I appreciate it? Well, I probably don't say Thank You enough for the things he does, even if it's something he does every single day. There is always something to appreciate, I just to need to remove my blindfold. So that's goal #1,

  I want to thank my husband more, and tell him how much I appreciate the things he does for me, for us, and for other people. I want to privately appreciate him every day, and publicly appreciate him at least once a week.

2. Focus on the good- I've been reading this book and it talks about three zones. The ideal zone- when you and your mate start dating and you see all the good, and ignore the bad. The real zone- when you see the good & the bad (this is where relationships should stay), and the danger zone- where you only see the bad. Like I said above, we can always do things better. Goal #2, I want to point out more of the good things my husband does, remember the things I fell in love with and not focus on what irritates or annoys me.

3. Be Loveable- This is kind of a combination of the first two goals, if I'm pointing out the bad things then I'm constantly nagging my husband instead of appreciating him. Why would he want to love me if he doesn't feel loved? Goal #3, I want to be more supportive & compassionate in big and small ways every day.

4. Quality Time- We spend time together, whether it's watching football together or eating dinner at the table but I want to spend more "quality" time together. For instance, on days where he works later in the morning I want to get up and enjoy breakfast or coffee together instead of sleeping in. I want to go on more walks together, and I want to have date nights more often. We don't have kids yet, so we have time, but it's what we do with our "extra" time that makes the difference.

I'll end this post with the most important advice I've heard, when it comes to an argument

"You can be right, or you can be happy"

I think I'll spend more time being happy ;)

Catching Up

  Our life has been pretty crazy since the last time I blogged, so let's catch up! On Friday, John flew to North Carolina to pick up his little girl, I went camping up on our Uncles ranch with my parents, niece & nephew. My dad got a "side-by-side ATV" I forgot to take a picture of it, so I found this one on the internet just to give you an idea of what the heck I'm talking about.  

It's awesome

We spent a couple hours cruising around on this, Dad even let me drive it! Shocker

My niece Riley & I on our way up to the Ranch

On Saturday it was my friends Wedding Day!!

She was beautiful, and so was the wedding.

Lawn Games

Cake Pops

Taco Bar - seriously AMAZING

Beautiful Bride

Great music

I've known Jasmine (the bride) for awhile, her sister Whitney is my best friend (top middle pic) I am so happy for her & Alex, they've been together since they were 14 years old!!

I'm so glad I was able to be there to celebrate with them!

Best Wishes Mr & Mrs Shields!

On Fathers Day we had a big lunch at my parent's house

BBQ Ribs

Corn on the cob

Baked beans (Dad's famous recipe)

Shrimp pasta salad

all the fix-ins for a great meal

YUM!

Every year I have the hardest time choosing a card for my dad, I either want to make him laugh, or make him realize how much I really love him. I usually go with the mushy ones but I actually bought him TWO cards this year because I couldn't help it, the card was too funny not to get.

I should have taken a picture, but.... I didn't, so i'll just explain it.

The front said

"Dad, you're like a Father to me"

the inside said

"No but really, I mean that"

All I could think about was the guy from the Hangover, so I had to get it.

My dad & I have a weird sense of humor, so we thought it was hilarious.

I spent the rest of the day relaxing in my parents backyard enjoying this fresh beverage

Let's hope that hour in the sun gave me a little color

I've decided against tanning beds (I spend my money on a lot of stuff, but spending money on skin cancer is not on my list).... and I haven't found a fake tan that I am brave enough to try...

If you're reading this, and you have a favorite "fake tan" lotion that doesn't make you orange and you can use it all over including your face- comment & let me know what it is cuz this girl is WHITE.

I need some color before my wedding (53 days!), or I'll blend in with my wedding dress.

Gross

So that was our crazy weekend

John &his daughter got home Monday at 2am....that story is coming soon :)

Let's just say, I love being a "step-mom"

Stay tuned!

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