We've all been there
The friends we had in high-school, we might not have anymore
The friends we had in our 20's...we might not have anymore
Relationships we once had, haven't carried over into our present years.
So why?
Just like I said in my last post, it comes with age.
The older you get, the wiser you become.
As you grow up you realize who your real friends really are.
So why would you lose "friends"?
The Obvious Reason- You're usually "younger" or quite immature when it's this reason. You're selfish, and probably insecure. You are a flake and you never show up where you're supposed to, you're completely fake to your friends, you keep people around that you don't really like because you like having "a lot" of "friends." You're never there for your friend(s), and your life is way more important than theirs.
Outside relationships clash- Whether you're the boss, or the employee; or the landlord, or the tenant. Very few people are able to maintain a relationship in the workplace, or a place where there is a "higher" position present. You might not understand why you went out the night before with your boss, but you're getting trouble at work the next day. A lot of people can't split the two. One of the biggest mistakes I made as a boss was befriending my employees, I couldn't split up having respect for them as an employee, and being a friend. Never do that..you'll run into disrespect, and you'll have a really hard time being a "boss."
At least I know I did...
People Change- You have the friend you've known since childhood, you grew up together & she owned the "best" part of your best friend necklace, and now everything is different. The person you used to laugh with, spend every day with, and someone you called your best friend is now the most negative aspect in your life. People change, most of the time they become the person they never said they'd be. There are relationships in which the "change" is important to adapt to- because they won't be the same person forever, neither will you.
Sometimes, it's something you might need to get rid of.
You let them go- As you grow up you realize that you need certain friends, and you need to get rid of the ones causing any negativity. You "weed" out the negative ones, the toxic friends, and the ones who don't respect who you truly are. You finally get brave and stand up for yourself & say "I don't' need this anymore" and even though it's not as easy as clicking the "unfriend" button on Facebook, everything will be okay. You will be happier without them in your life, just wait.
and the last one...that you might not think would ever make someone lose a friend, but it does more often than you think.
You have a huge heart- Having a huge heart can be one of the best things in the world, and it can also be the worst. You go out of your way for your friends, and you'd drop anything to be there for them. You expect more from the friends that you have, because you're willing to do that much for them. Never do "too" much for someone or get "too" attached, attachments lead to expectations and expectations lead to disappointment. Having a huge heart keeps you from having "a ton" of friends, because there's only so many people that appreciate your huge heart instead of walking all over it and using it to their advantage. After all, you forgive easily and sometimes you even say sorry for something you don't even need to say sorry for...that's something anyone can use to their advantage, especially those who never do anything wrong. Be careful.
Sadly there are more reasons than this, and it's hard to lose a friend.
However, it's harder to keep a friend that hurts you, than it is to let go.
"Never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn't care about losing you"
In the end, you'll find out who your real friends are, it's not easy, and it will hurt.
Just believe, that the best will be.
