If there was any message I could get out to those who are in high-school
those in their very first relationship
Anything I could say to myself when I was starting to get boy crushes, and have a NEED for a boyfriend
and anything I could stress to younger kids, eager to be in love it would be...
You're not in love
Sometimes it would have been nice to be warned about what was about to happen when I was 17 and I got my first boyfriend...
Dear 17 year old me, you're obviously a selfie queen, (they were obviously invented at this time)
You look real innocent in this picture...but it's all about to change
You have morals & values, and you have always stood up for what you believed in
You're Daddy's little girl, and you tell your Mom everything
you're about to take advantage of this relationship and every other one in your life
for about the next five years...
You're about to go on a "date" with this new boyfriend of yours
It won't be like the date you've always thought it would be
You'll be tagging along with him and the other guys, trying to hold his hand...
It's going to be embarrassing, and you'll feel invisible
but that won't stop you
You've been twitter-pated and nervous all day
but guess what?
You're not in love
You're in "lust" or you're just "infatuated"
You don't even know what a relationship is
You haven't even begun to understand what LOVE means
You have butterflies, and you love the title "girlfriend"
You love having a guy hold your hand in public
and maybe walk you to class and give you a kiss (barf)
but you have no idea...
You have gone into this relationship with morals & values, and you're letting them go for someone you hardly know. If he really loved you, he wouldn't let you give up what you know to be true.
You will stand by his side through anything, because he's your first love, and you'll do anything for him
You will get nothing in return
You will suffer heartaches, you will become lost, and you will have no self worth when it's all over.
You don't know who you are yet
You are creating a new you, in this new relationship...and it's not a "good" you
You are letting him create the future you. Is that what you want?
You are now a puppet
But you're not in love
You're in love with the idea
You will give up your friends, ruin relationships in your family, and the only thing that will matter is him.
He will "love" you for this, after all, you are his puppet
You will spend many nights crying, thinking something you did was your fault
You'll say sorry for something that you didn't do, and go crawling back to him after every fight
But you're not in love
You will break up, make up, fight, and drive each other crazy
You will have times you laugh, and smile, and feel like nothing could go wrong
But you're not in love
You will think of your future, with him in it
You will think "it's okay if I get pregnant"
You will think once you turn 18, you can live together
You have a part time job, and you're lucky if he even has one
You'll want to be with him forever
But you're not in love
People come into your life, some are lessons and some are blessings
Some people marry their high school sweethearts
and some learn a lot from their first relationship
I do not regret my past, nor do I regret my high-school relationship
but I was not in love
I hope that if I ever have a little girl, I can teach her this.
I can teach her not to get involved with a guy.
Wait until you're 16 and go on dates, find out what you like and dislike.
Keep your morals and your values
Stand up for yourself
If you find a man who doesn't approve of your morals, walk away
Don't give up everything to gain nothing
Refuse to be treated less than you deserve
Be strong
Breakups are hard, but they get you over something you shouldn't be in, in the first place
Don't go back to something because it's comfortable
If you aren't happy, make a change
The change will always start with you
and it has to start today
Dear 17 year old me, don't pretend you're in love
You have no idea......
