When you move in with a guy, it changes a lot
When you move in with a guy you're engaged to, it changes everything.
Now, before you think I'm being negative, let me explain
John & I are very different when it comes to keeping up the house
I'm a little more OCD in certain areas
and kind of a control freak about where everything goes.
At the beginning, I would let myself get upset about all of it,
and if he wasn't home, I'd be ready to unload when he walked in the door.
At the beginning, I would let myself get upset about all of it,
and if he wasn't home, I'd be ready to unload when he walked in the door.
BUT awhile ago, I got some of the best advice, ready for it?
"There are 3 parts of the day that are the most important in your relationship; when you wake up, when you see each other again after work, and when you go to bed.
The first five minutes of each part, are the most crucial, and can determine how the rest of your day goes"
"Just five minutes of something positive. Whether it's kissing, cuddling, laughing, holding hands.."
I tried this and it changed a lot. It's definitely something you have to make a habit!
Think about all the stuff that goes on in our day, the things we're upset about, and maybe things that we need to "nag" our fiance about when they get home. We wait all day, and when they walk in the door we just unload. everything.
I dunno about you, but I wouldn't want to come home to someone who was nagging me,
or reminding me of everything I did wrong.
We are human, we all make mistakes, and none of us are perfect. Yet, we all have the ability to become better. Living with someone is not always going to be rainbows and butterflies. In fact, it never is. Everyone is so different, and once you've lived on your own for 7+ years, you have your own way of doing things. When you live with someone, they don't do stuff the way you do it, and you have to adapt to that and find their strengths instead of looking at their weaknesses.
When people say "the first year of your marriage is the hardest" I truly believe it's just getting used to living with each other. John & I have lived together for 8 months, and it gets better every single day.
We are human, we all make mistakes, and none of us are perfect. Yet, we all have the ability to become better. Living with someone is not always going to be rainbows and butterflies. In fact, it never is. Everyone is so different, and once you've lived on your own for 7+ years, you have your own way of doing things. When you live with someone, they don't do stuff the way you do it, and you have to adapt to that and find their strengths instead of looking at their weaknesses.
When people say "the first year of your marriage is the hardest" I truly believe it's just getting used to living with each other. John & I have lived together for 8 months, and it gets better every single day.
Do what I did, take that advice and try it out, even just for a week, you'll see a positive difference.
It helps make you calm for all the things you want to communicate, that way you're communicating, not nagging. I'm not a relationship pro, that's for sure, I mean I'm not even married yet- but I will share my advice that I was given, if it helped me, maybe it can help you!
It helps make you calm for all the things you want to communicate, that way you're communicating, not nagging. I'm not a relationship pro, that's for sure, I mean I'm not even married yet- but I will share my advice that I was given, if it helped me, maybe it can help you!
We can always be better right?
