No regrets

As much as I want to post more photos of our big day

or post the new highlight video, today is something different.

Today I'm blogging about something that's a little closer to home.

It seems that lately someone around me is mourning a loss due to death of a loved one.

Even though these deaths have been sudden and unexpected, mourning someone you've lost lasts forever.

They say with time it gets easier, but the only thing that makes it easy is knowing you'll see them again one day, and each day is a day closer.

There are too many people living without the ones they love today.

Which is why I'm blogging today, because there are so many things that we just don't do enough, and sometimes it's too late. I am guilty of not doing a lot of these.

Death is hard regardless, but it can be very hard when you feel like you didn't get enough time with them, or you didn't tell them the things you wanted to. We always think we have time, or we wait for the right opportunity but sometimes it's too late. 

Here are 7 things that we could all do more often;

SAY "I love you"- Whether you're saying it to this person for the first time, or you're in a relationship. Let people know how you feel, you might get rejected but you also might regret not expressing your feelings. If you're in a relationship, say I love you every single day or more than once a day, but at LEAST say it to each other every. single. day, even on the days where they aren't being love-able.

BE KIND- Not just on the days you want to, or to the people you think deserve it. Be kind to everyone, you have no idea what kind of battles others are facing and an act of kindness, even just a smile or a "hello" can make someones day so much better. Be kind to your enemies, go out of your way to do something nice for someone who would least expect it. There's too much hate in this world, and not enough kindness, start paying it forward & make a difference. 

STAY IN TOUCH- Life changes, and people change, and you and your friends will grow apart. Keep in touch, they are in your life for a reason as you are in theirs so don't just let them go because it's not as easy to see each other anymore. Whether it's a text, or a phone call, or a Facetime/Skype date, just keep in touch. Send a hello, ask how they're doing and make time to see each other at least once/twice a year because there will come a day when they aren't there to visit anymore, and you'll regret it. 

PRIORITIZE- Life is busy, work is important, after all it's what pays for the life you live, but don't forget who you're supporting with it. One of my favorite sayings is "don't get too busy making a living, that you forget to make a life." Money is important, but family and god should always come first. Don't let your job take over your entire life to the point where you don't have time for your own family. 

Invest in the people you love, more than you invest in your bank account.

SAY "SORRY"= Another thing that shouldn't be left unsaid. Clean the cobwebs out of your closet, fix the tension between past relationships, and show love & kindness instead of hate & envy. Be there for them when they least expect it.

DON'T USE PEOPLE- We have all been there, we have been used. Maybe you're the friend who only needs someone around when it's convenient, or maybe you have those friends. Don't take anyone in your life for granted, because when you truly need them, they won't be there. Treat everyone like you would want to be treated, give back to those that have given to you, and accept people for who they are.

LOOSEN YOUR GRIP- "Loosen it, don't lose it." In your relationships, in your friendships, in the work place. Let people breathe, give them space, but also let them know you care. It is possible to love someone TOO much, don't smother people in your life. Hold on too tight, and your relationships will crush, hold on too loose & you'll lose them.

When someone you know is mourning a loss it's hard to know what to say because saying "it will be okay" is the last thing they want to hear, because at the time, it isn't okay. Being there for them is what matters though, so buy them lunch or dinner, be a shoulder to cry on, let them know you're there for them for anything.
God bless all of those who are mourning a loss at this time, my heart is heavy today after some news I received last night about an old friend and I decided it was time to do things a little different and stop worrying so much about myself, it's time to give, it's time to care, it's time to love everyone even when they aren't love-able, and it's time to let all of you know that I care.

Live every day like it's your last, and treat everyone like it's the last time you'll see them. Go out of your way and do something kind for someone today, pay for someones meal/coffee, smile at a stranger, leave a generous tip, do something for someone who can never repay you.
Life is too short to not be kind & generous, love and appreciate everyone.